Developing Emotional Wellbeing: tools for the journey

This is a confidential group – running once-a-month for five months between February and June 2022 (exact dates below) - which will offer space and time to consider different psychological models which we can draw upon to enhance our abilities to cope with demanding situations.  We will take time to think about how our own upbringings and ‘conditionings’ impact on how we respond to stress, become more familiar with our own personal ‘crumple buttons’ (trigger points), and consider how developing self-and-other compassion may offer a way through difficult moments in life. 

Who is this group for?

  • Any member of the clergy who would appreciate a confidential, supportive space in which to explore ways of strengthening their ability to flourish professionally and personally
  • Individuals who are willing to begin to apply some of the theoretical input to themselves and their working situations
  • People who are prepared to share personal experiences with the larger group, and to receive supportive feedback from other members of the group

We will meet at Holland House, starting at 9.30am running through to 12.30pm with a break for coffee; there will be an opportunity to stay at Holland House for lunch* followed by an afternoon of quiet self-reflection for those who wish this.

A typical group session will look like this:

  • 9.15-9.30: coffee on arrival
  • 9.30-10.00: introductions and ‘check in’
  • 10.30-11.30: facilitator input/pairwork/small group discussions
  • 11.30-11.50: coffee
  • 11.50-12.30: whole group discussion/feedback
  • 12.30: end/lunch

There will be experiential elements to the input, as well as sharing of relevant psychological/emotional theories and models of human interaction.  These will include:

  • An insight into how our drive, threat and soothing systems function, and how we can work creatively with them
  • The RAIN model of coping with difficult, strong emotions
  • Principles of Non-Violent Communication and how these may help in coping with ‘difficult’ people
  • Strategies for strengthening self-and-other compassion based on deep understanding of how need drives behaviour
  • Awareness of how our own ‘crumple buttons’ have evolved, and how to respond with more choice in demanding situations
  • Mindfulness as a key skill to develop

The facilitator is Dr David Mair, Bishop’s Adviser on Pastoral Care and Counselling.  David worked for many years as a counsellor in higher education, latterly as Head of Counselling and Wellbeing at the University of Birmingham. 

The cost to clergy is £70 for the five sessions and application to your CME allowance would cover this cost.  There will be a maximum group size of 10 and we will need a minimum of 8 in order to run the group.

Dates for the group:

  • Friday 25 February 
  • Friday 25 March 
  • Friday 29 April
  • Friday 27 May 
  • Monday 20 June 

*Lunch (£15) is not included in the price of the sessions, and needs to be booked separately with Holland House, AT LEAST 24 hours in advance.

To find out more, and to reserve a space, please contact David Mair on a confidential basis: Email him or call on 07535 962777


Page last updated: 6th November 2021 8:24 PM
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